Finding the way to Happiness

Whenever I have spare time to sit in front of my laptop, I search for reflective stuff or tips in life. I search for ways to live happier, I search for tips to be happy, and the search list goes on.

IMG_6508But then, just recently, I have received a gift from a colleague from India. It was a notebook. A mirrored notebook with matching pen. It was beautiful and it was stunning. I have never seen a notebook like this in my life.  As I open it, I found a touching message with a hope that I write more inspirational things this year and it made me smile. It made my heart happy knowing that there really are people who find the things I write as “Inspiring” so to say. As I close the notebook, I again saw my face in the mirror attached to it’s cover. This time I saw myself smiling much more because of those words written on the first page. Then a thought just came across my head that this would be the perfect time. The time for me to publish my idea of finding happiness. Not very long ago I realize, we don’t need to try finding our own happiness according to other people’s list. We all have unique lives. No one should be living it as a carbon copy of another life. Rather than depending on other people’s list, allow them to be an inspiration to you. You can come up with your own perfect list as you take your journey in finding your own happiness.

Yet, I have a few things that I want to share, hoping that this could inspire you to make your own pattern.

My list isn’t perfect, and I am not claiming nor pushing you to follow my list. I am just sharing with you the simplest things that makes me happy the way I am and the way my life really is.

  • Feel good about yourself. I grew up seeing other people wanting to have whiter skin and now that I have stepped out of the real world, I see a different thing. Now, I see people wanting to have a darker one. I just don’t understand. I am dark and I have bigger body structure than any other ladies out there. Yes I sometimes envy sexy ones, but at the end of the day, I have to tell myself, “I look good”. It makes me feel good and pushes me to look better the next day. You have to remember that we should be looking and treating ourselves the way we wanted to be looked at and treated.
  • Sing at the top of your lungs. You can sing well or not. Who cares? Singing can make you feel good even at the toughest times of your every day. At some point we could get stuck at the moment where you just couldn’t explain what it is that you are feeling. Go to an isolated room, or in your car, sing the hell out of it!
  • Cry hard, but smile and laugh harder. Life can be cruel and life can be unfair. Sometimes, the things we want the most are the things we can never have no matter how much we work hard for them. Yet, don’t ever forget that life is filled with much more that what you desire especially on material things. You just have to decide for yourself whether you’ll give yourself a reason to smile and a reason to be happy. Whenever we commit mistakes, we learn from them and forget them for a while. One day when we remember that one particular mistake, we can’t help but laugh about it. Laugh and be thankful on how much you’ve learned from it.
  • Dream, pray and work hard to achieve them. Dream at your sleep and dream while you are awake. Pray and have faith of the things that you aim for but work hard towards the dream transforming into nothing else but a reality.
  • Stumble. Don’t be a perfectionist. Life won’t be exciting that way cause it was never meant to be perfect. PERFECTION DOES NOT EXIST. Whenever you stumble, never allow yourself to stay there. Get up, keep going and never make the same “wrong move” that made you stumble.
  • Fall in love. Chances are, you’ll have your heart be broken into pieces. It will take time to heal and you’ll fall in love once again. You might fail at some point in keeping the person you love but it doesn’t end there. The happiness that is destined for you to have will come at the right time.
  • Collect and cherish moments. Explore alone. Explore with family. Explore with friends. That’s just about it.
  • Make friends and keep them. Treat everyone as your friend. you’ll never know how much it would mean to them. I am not into the idea of determining who your real friends are and who’s not. Just as long as you remain true to them then it’s enough.
  • Forgive and move on; Apologize and move on. People make mistakes. We all make mistakes. Forget about the ego, forget about the pride. Don’t allow yourself to be stuck in the pain that it caused you. Never revenge; never make the same mistake.
  • Learn. Read books. Attend seminars. Listen to audiobooks and to other people’s success stories. Allow them all to make a big impact in you.

We all have our own unique ways in finding happiness. This is mine. 🙂

Apolinario-Advinculla Pre-nup Ras Al Khaimah UAE

Live a Good Life

would you rather lose something you already have or something you will have?

 it’s called “choice”.

which needs the right “REASON”,

and definitely does not require nor need “REGRETS”. 

Sometimes in life, what gives us all stress is the mere fact that we bother doing everything to get everything.

Makes us all forget the things we really need and what we really have

The key to “CONTENTMENT” is not gaining so much in excess of what we need.

The key is seeing the value of what we already have and making them enough for your journey to happiness. 

At the end of the day, all our wants should be set aside and soon be forgotten, not because we gave up on trying to have the “wants” but because we found both “CONTENTMENT” and “HAPPINESS” in embracing God’s gift.

it’s called “SIMPLE LIFE”

 What you’ve all just read is a very short blog post I had back in 2011 of which, the said blog was already deleted (at least that’s what I think) 

Anyhow, I’ve come to write that down out of nowhere, only with the thought and hope that I would come to live a very simple yet contented life. 

I haven’t proven that one until I’ve read Mr Bo Sanchez ‘s book (Simplify & Live a Good Life).20130604_155627

Yes I’am young, (I still believe that I am at the age of 24) and I can say this is probably the age where you’d want to have everything that you can buy in the world especially on pay days. I don’t intend to keep my hands clean at this matter but I honestly think I am not one of those people at my age or so. 

As Bo Sanchez mentioned at the book Live less & Delight in it more.

I currently live and work outside my home country but that doesn’t mean I desire for more luxurious life. It was my own choice and decision to leave my family and friends behind in my homeland because I knew within myself that there are so much more I can learn. Frankly, never was there any moment that I regret that choice I have made. I was basically the main source of headache of my parents, which I know I shouldn’t be saying but I am saying it anyway because I know that whatever I did back then that gave my parents headaches, I have come to prove myself by now. That I can stand up for my own decisions but most of all, that I can decide responsibly on and for my own life. 

I believe that if in my soul I deeply respect & value myself, people around me will sense that. They too will value & respect me-whether I’m wearing an Armani or not.

I honestly wasn’t able to say anything but to smile upon reading this one. Yes I dream about having branded bags and clothes. Yes I can afford them. But I haven’t tried purchasing any clothing or dress that would probably exceed to AED 40/= per pc. I haven’t tried and I don’t see the point in trying. 

I enjoy wearing the same stuff over and over. I enjoy wearing the rejected items from those clothes I used to sell house-to-house as an extra income. Though my mom once stopped me from doing so and she was saying that it wasn’t really necessary because what I was earning was good enough. But I knew somewhere down the line I had to do something to have extra income, because I knew what I had to learn. 

After all, I am more than the brand of my watch, logo of my shoes or the name of my car. (Simplfy) oh by the way, yes I have not-so-recently purchased a car out of what I am earning as of now but I am very proud to say that I bought a second-hand 2006 Peugeot and had ran for a massive amount of mileage already. I am happily driving it despite the fact that I have the choice to buy a brand new one and monthly pay for it for 5 years. But then that monthly amount which I’d rather send to my bank account in the Philippines would definitely save me a fortune already. At least I saw my family happy that I managed to buy a vehicle of my own without knocking down their own pockets. I thank God for that moment. 

Satisfaction is not getting what you want but wanting what you already have.

Need I say more?

Seriously at my age, I’ve learned a lot from this book exactly what I should know by now. In life, responsibility and choices. I am fortunate that I was raised by my family as I am. I never tried, not for once, to be someone I was not and that’s keeping  me simply contented with my life and what I have. 

If you think you still need a lot to know about saving up, or spending or whatever it is in life. If you think you deserve more in life, or you have a lot in life. I’m telling you this book is for you.


just the right wave of friendship

just the right wave of friendship
Taken at Royal Breeze, Al Hamra Village, Ras Al Khaimah, UAE

A day to relax is a day bound to be share with one of a few good friends in life. A day of laughter is a day to replace a dozen of frowning, tears and downfalls from the past.

A million people can walk out on us. but only a few can stay till we get up once again from our fall.

8 years of Distance;10 years of just knowing.


My fellow Lasallians. My batchmates. A real good friend and a new bonded friend. 
One weekend not far from today. I had a few visitors from California and Dubai.
Surprisingly they were the visitors I never expected to have at my paradise home.
Rawlin is a good friend of mine back in highschool. Since she migrated to California, (I think) I never had the chance to see her or spend time with her. 
While Ivan on the other hand was just a random friend in high school as well  whom I just say “hi” or nod my head a little whenever we bump each other at the hall way of our classrooms or by the discipline office. Just a typical batchmate to make it short. 
So there it was, an afternoon to spend and have some fun with this two along with Ernan and Grace whom I also met here in UAE.
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Few bites of chicken by the Sea shore. Few gulps  of cola from the plastic cups. Few pieces of french fries. Then comes a moment of fun by the sea of such a wonderful place where I live. 
But then again, it didn’t end there. We then went on for a dip by the pool. Then it was time for the ladies to sit back and relax as the two chefs we were with do their thing at the kitchen. 
It’s one of the priceless things in life I really appreciate at that very moment. Sharing stories while having dinner and having a few drinks after. Appreciating a renewed friendship and the new ones. 
For once which hopefully won’t be the last I have shared my relaxing then with a good old friend and the new. 
I appreciated life more as I took a few relaxing moments with them. 

Not being a great pretender

e71 (113)Most of the time, people would ask me,


Then I just SMILE.

They ask such question because I always smile. I always tend to be so active in everything, outgoing and seems not to run out of things to talk about, words to say, and stories to tell.

Here’s the thing.

Everyday in our lives we meet new people, bond with the people we value, reunite with the people we used to be closed to.

But what’s important is that those times are so rare to have for us to create an impact to those people’s lives. What you do are things they can learn from either in a good or a bad way. Although we always claim to have clean intentions. Anyway, that’s not the main point here, what I am saying is that let us make sure that we always give ourselves the chance and the right to be HAPPY.


Same way should we also make sure to LIVE LEARN & LOVE.


always SMILE.

 it doesn’t make you a GREAT PRETENDER. Just a GOOD HANDLER.

I do this because there’s something I keep in my mind that I want to share. (something i decided to do after talking with some good friends tonight.)

SMILE despite your problems because not everybody wants to hear what your life is about or what you are going through. You’ll just feel right when you find the people you’d want to let your heartaches out to.

and so why waste the rare chances to SMILE & TO BE HAPPY. 

We only have 1 LIFE. make the most out of it.

Status: Unfinished

It hurts for everything to end in a snap, but life is a matter of learning to hold though in the end you’re just meant to let it go. Not at the time when you are both happy holding, but when you’re both strong enough to turn backs on each other. Truth is that you are strengthen by the things you went through, strengthen in a different way. Both of you learned much more at the hardest hit of pain.

As for you…

You moved on with that great anger for me ….

You moved on with that powerful pain inside you that turned you so numb.

I’ll be sorry more when i don’t see you happy even with somebody else…

I’ll be sorry more when i don’t get to see you loving even if that means loving another person.

I’ve said all my i love you to you with no hesitations.

I tend to sacrifice even the out most of my dreams.

I tried changing to be right enough for you until it wasn’t the real “ME” anymore

love was enough for us to be together yet it wasn’t enough for our forever.

you and i had those thousands of promises aloud

then again it wasn’t enough for our hearts to hear.

pain was all over us that made us fall not into the ground but out of love.

laughters came to life and made moments to treasure
followed by arguements that threw those painful words to hear
heart breaks became the ghost of confrontation and results to separation.

as for me…..

im right here…
smiling as i see you with another
i smile as my tears fall not from these eyes that looks at you
but from the heart that keeps you ’til now.

i let you go though i dont want to
it’s just that something inside knows how much pain im giving as i offer you everything…

just made tears flow even more when
i see
you found strength in my weakness
you found your happiness in my tears
you found your all when nothing was left with me

you’re not selfish
just goes to show all the things i have done
are not enough
that the love i give was not enough
worst is that i wasn’t enough

time passed by….
we are friends……….. (unfinished)